A natal chart is a snapshot of the sky at the moment you took your first breath. It does not decide your life. It describes the weather system you were born into.
Planets are functions. Signs are styles. Houses are rooms. Aspects are conversations.
A square is not a curse. It is friction that produces work. A trine is not a blessing. It is ease that can go unused.
If a reading makes you smaller, it failed. If it names a pattern you have lived and could not say, it did its job.
Stop asking the sky to excuse you. Ask it to name you accurately. Then choose.